Conflict Management for Children
Our school follows the Kelso's Choice Conflict Management for Children program. It empowers children to use the skills of conflict management in school, in the community and at home. The curriculum is easily adapted to a variety of settings: school-wide,
classrooms, small groups and individual counseling.
Kelso’s Choice Conflict Management for Children is a powerful
and timely tool to build a vital life skill for the young people in
today’s world. The program philosophy is simple: each child is
smart enough and strong enough to resolve conflict.
Unlike some programs which tout peer mediators who are
trained to intervene as conflict managers, Kelso’s Choice
assumes that all young people are capable of becoming
Developed in 1992 and revised in 2007, the program reflects a proven way to:
- Empower young people with the ability to determine their own behavior, encouraging an internal locus of control and appropriate problem ownership. Statements such as “He made me do it!” and “She did it first!” become obsolete as students become accountable for their own choices.
- Reduce tattling through a proactive, preventative approach that keeps small problems form escalating and prevents negative attention-getting mechanisms from occurring.Systematize expectations of student behavior and provides consistency in rules and discipline on a school-wide basis.
- Provide a cognitive structure for discriminating between “small” problems young people can resolve and “big” problems that require adult intervention.
- Increase feelings of personal competence as young people successfully resolve conflicts, both within the structured lessons and in their own lives.
- Develop an important linkage between home and school as the Kelso’s Choice program is shared with parents.
- Give young people an important conflict resolution tool they can use when adults are not available or readily accessible. These situations might include riding bikes around the neighborhood, waiting at the bus stop or playing games in the far corner of school grounds.